Monthly Archives: November 2012

Secrets of the Capitalist Class: How to gain financial freedom

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They work on projects that pay dividends for 25+ years, not just a single paycheck. (Focus only on projects that result in collecting income for long periods of time after the work is completed).Redeploy the revenues into new ventures, acquisitions or investments such as stocks, bonds, or real estate.

They diversify income sources as well as assets: The riskiest place you can be is depending on an employer for a paycheck.

The capitalist class prefers passive income* over active income. The more money you earn from passive income sources, the more time you have to find new opportunities, study new ventures, acquire more knowledge and skills, find great employees, and spend time with family.

*Two categories of Passive income are: 1. Passive income sources that require capital to start, maintain and grow. 2. Passive income sources that do not require capital to start, maintain and grow. Some examples are:

  • Rent from real estate properties
  • Patent royalties from an invention
  • Trademark licensing fees for characters or brands you have created
  • Royalties from books, songs, publications r other original works
  • Profits from businesses in which you owe no day-to-day role or responsibility
  • Earnings from internet advertising on a blog or website you own
  • Dividends from stocks, equity mutual funds, or other equity securities
  • Interest from owning bonds, certificates of deposit, other cash and cash equilivents
  • Pensions
  • Residual income for a slaes person from accounts that are typically renewed automatically

The capitalist class understands tha nature of money – Money can grow with the power of compounding. The longer the capital can be left to grow, the larger the ultimate fortune will be. Also rate of return is extremely important.

The capitalsit class makes it’s own luck. The capitalist class is constantly working, studying and creating opportunities. They are constantly researching investments, building shopping centers, finding investors, launching new products, or going after big clients every single day. When only one of these activities pays off big, it’s enough to be set for life.

The capitalist class doesn’t care what the market does.

The capitalist class understands taxes. A basic understanding of tax regulations can make building wealth much easier.

The capitalost class thinks of business as a game. This approach to business, and life, makes it easier to take risks. It removes a lot fo the fear because you know that if you lose money (which of course we avoid at all costs), you’re only one idea away from rebuilding the asset.

The capitalist class realizes money is a tangible commodity. When raising money to start or open a business, members of the capitalist class don’t care where the money comes from, only the terms and cost of the funds. The capitalist class doesn’t compartmentalize money like the middle class. They see every dollar as a dollar and put it towards it’s greatest use.

To summarize:

  • Change the way youthink about money – Make it work for you
  • Develop and understanding of the power of small amounts
  • With each dollar you save you are buying yourself freedom
  • You are responsible for where you are in life
  • Instead of buying the product, buy the STOCK
  • Study and admire success and those who have it, then emulate it.
  • Realize that more money is not the answer. Money is a magnifying glass; it will accellerate and bring to light your true habits
  • Unless your parents were wealthy, don’t do what they did.

Once you have made the choice and firm commitment to take control back of your life by building up your net worth, don’t give a second thought to the “what ifs”. Every moment that goes by you are growing closer and closer to your ultimate goal – control and freedom. Every dollar that passes through your hands is a seed to your financial future. Rest assured, if you are dilligent and responsible, financial prosperity is inevitable.

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30 Things to stop doing to yourself

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people
  2. Stop running from your problems
  3. Stop lying to yourself. Read “The road less traveled”
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness
  11. Stop being idle
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons
  14. Stop rejecting relationships because old ones didn’t work
  15. Stop trying to compete with everyone else
  16. Stop being jealous of others
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself
  18. Stop holding grudges
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others
  21. Stop doing the same thing over and over without taking a break
  22. Stop Trying to make things perfect
  23. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance 
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone
  28. Stop worrying so much
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen
  30. Stop being ungrateful

60 Tips for a Stunningly Great Life

  1. Exercise daily
  2. Get serious about gratitude
  3. See you work as a craft
  4. Expect the best and prepare for the worst
  5. Keep a journal
  6. Read the “Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin”
  7. Plan a schedule for your week
  8. Know the 5 highest priorities of your life
  9. Say no to distractions
  10. Drink a lot of water
  11. Improve your work every single day
  12. Get a mentor
  13. Hire a coach
  14. Get up at 5am every day (yeah right)
  15. Eat less food
  16. Find more heroes
  17. Be a hero to someone
  18. Smile at strangers
  19. Be the most ethical person you know
  20. Don’t settle for anything less than excellence
  21. Savor lifes simple pleasures
  22. Save 10% of your income every month (or more if you can)
  23. Spend time at art galleries
  24. Walk in the woods
  25. Write thank you letters to those who’ve helped you out
  26. Forgive those who’ve wronged you
  27. Remember that leadership is about influence and impact, not title and accolades
  28. Create unforgettable moments with those you love
  29. Have 5 great friends
  30. Become stunningly polite
  31. Unplug your TV
  32. Read daily
  33. Sell your TV
  34. Avoid the news
  35. Be content with what you have
  36. Pursue your dreams
  37. Be authentic
  38. Be passionate
  39. Say sorry when you know you should
  40. Never miss a moment to celebrate another
  41. Have a vision for your life
  42. Know your strengths
  43. Focus your mind on the good versus lack
  44. Be patient
  45. Don’t give up
  46. Clean up your messes
  47. Use impeccable words
  48. Travel more
  49. Read “As you think”
  50. Honor your parents
  51. Tip taxi drivers/bartenders well
  52. Be a great teammate
  53. Give no energy to critics
  54. Spend time in the mountains
  55. Know your top 5 values
  56. Shift from being busy to acheiving results
  57. Innovate and iterate
  58. Speak less. Listen more
  59. Be the best person you know
  60. Make you life matter. Live on purpose

How to conquer ANY challenge

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I need to preface this by saying this is a re-post from an article I read written by Rahul Bhambhani from take-20.com. I read it and it instantly caught my attention. I hope some of you can apply this to your lives.

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My greatest talent is my ability to quickly conquer challenges, no matter how difficult they may be, and obtain the results I desire while doing so every time.

 

I’ve used this formula to ace countless exams while in college, become an expert in the field of women and dating, become a solid poker player in a short amount of time, and advance leaps and bounds in my spiritual development.

 

No matter the specifics of your particular challenge (acquiring a new skill, squeezing out an incredible performance in a short amount of time, gaining control over a chaotic area of your life, etc.) apply this formula and I’m confident you’ll achieve the results you desire every single time.

 

Without further ado, here’s the formula.

 

 

1. Cultivate a Burning Desire for Success

 

This is the first and most important step of the formula. Without a burning desire for success, you won’t have the fuel necessary to stick to your guns when the going gets tough, and will give up way too easily. You won’t want it bad enough.

 

With a burning desire for success, however, your drive will become even stronger when facing potential obstacles. Rather than stopping you, these obstacles will serve as additional fuel for your burning desire once you’ve overcome them. There’s no better way to boost your self-confidence than to prevail in spite of all the obstacles that stand in your way.

 

I absolutely love to cultivate a burning desire for success by deliberately putting myself in tremendously tough situations. When I was still in college, I would purposely never go to class, and would wait until a few days before an exam to start studying for it. I thrive under pressure, and there’s nothing I love more than facing a seemingly impossible challenge. I knew that by intentionally putting myself in the tough situation described above, I would cultivate the burning desire for success necessary to ace any exam thrown my way.

 

Over the past few years, channeling my frustration has been another great method I’ve used to stoke my burning desire for success. Three years ago, I was extremely frustrated with my dating situation. I felt like I had no control over my dating life, and had no selection when it came to women. If I was lucky, a girl may have looked my way once or twice. I hated that I had to rely on chance to land the girl of my dreams.

 

As this frustration built up, I became more and more motivated to change my bleak dating situation. Finally my frustration reached its flash point, and a raging wildfire suddenly ignited within. I decided I was going to become a master with women and dating, and nothing was going to stop me.

 

While these two methods of cultivating my burning desire for success have worked for me, they may not work for you. Different methods work for different people, and the key is to identify the method that works best for you.

 

Ask yourself, what does it take for you to really start wanting something? Look to your past and identify those times when you wanted something really bad, and figure out how this desire started in the first place.

 

Did you want to prove to yourself that you were capable of achieving something great?

 

Did you want to prove to others that you were capable of doing something incredible?

 

Were you highly unsatisfied with the quality of an area of your life?

 

Did having your back against the wall in a pressure situation motivate you?

 

 

2. Decide You’ll Do Whatever it Takes to Get the Results You Desire

 

By deciding to do whatever it takes to obtain the results you desire, you’re almost guaranteeing your success before you even get started. Understand you can only fail when you throw in the towel, and that whatever obstacles you experience along your path to success will yield to stern resolve. Therefore, failure is not an option.

 

I’ll admit, it’s challenging to adopt this mindset under normal circumstances. But these are not normal circumstances, my friend. Your burning desire for success will be RAGING so uncontrollably that you’ll have no problem believing that your success is inevitable.

 

Here’s an awesome quote to illustrate the mindset you need to have:

 

“Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”

– Leonardo Da Vinci

 

I’m pretty sure we can agree that Da Vinci was a wise man. You’d be just as wise to acknowledge that no matter how challenging the path to success may seem, your unshakable commitment to success will always triumph any challenge thrown your wayno matter what.

 

 

3. Apply Overwhelming Force

 

Don’t just skim the top of the water with your feet. Dive in head first! Tackle this challenge with your full arsenal of weaponry. Attack it from every angle, and don’t ease off the trigger until it’s been completely annihilated.

 

When I finally decided I was going to earn a living as a professional poker player, I knew that to succeed I would have to learn how to play the incredibly complex game optimally. I also knew that easing into things wasn’t going to help me conquer this challenge, and that I’d have to hit the ground running right away if I was to have any shot at success.

 

I immediately applied overwhelming force to my learning efforts.

 

I started reading poker strategy forums tirelessly, tore through tons of books insatiably, played in nearly a thousand online tournaments, studied and analyzed my hand histories endlessly, discussed tough hands with friends that were better than me into the wee hours of the night, and subscribed to a coaching website and watched hundreds of hours of strategy videos created by top professional poker players.

 

Can you say overkill?

 

I estimate I spent 10-12 hours a day, 5 days a week for 2 months learning the game. I ate, slept, and breathed poker. As crazy as this regimen might sound, at the end of the 2 month period I had learned the ins and outs of the game more thoroughly than most people would over the course of 2 years. By applying overwhelming force, I significantly shortened my learning curve, and became a strong poker player in a ridiculously short amount of time. The crazy regimen was well worth the reward.

 

Don’t dawdle around and spend years conquering a challenge. Your burning desire will most likely fizzle out over such an extended period of time. Instead, decide to apply overwhelming force to the rest of the steps listed below, and conquer that challenge as soon as possible!

 

 

4. Learn from the Experts

 

Actively seek out knowledge from experts who have already conquered your challenge. By doing so, your learning curve will shorten significantly, and you’ll absorb the best knowledge simultaneously.

 

I can’t stress to you enough how important this step is. Every single time I’ve conquered a challenge, a major factor in my success was the knowledge I acquired from experts.

 

When learning about women and dating, I got hold of all of David DeAngelo’s “Double Your Dating” programs, and gobbled up his knowledge on the subject. I then studied the Mystery Method, and completed Zan Perrion’s Enlightened Seduction program.

 

While pursuing my spiritual growth, I’ve read many books written by different masters explaining various spiritual pathways. I’ve attended a Vipassana Meditation course. I’ve corresponded regularly with a highly evolved spiritual mentor for over a year.

 

Whenever I was faced with a challenging exam on a subject I knew little about, I always studied with a friend who already had a great understanding of the material. I didn’t waste my time in study groups with people who only had a cursory understanding of the material at hand. Instead, I aligned myself with the brightest students in the class (the experts), and quickly mastered the material by picking their brain.

 

Who are the experts that have already conquered the challenge you’re facing now? Buy their books, attend their seminars, follow their instruction, and absorb as much of their knowledge as you possibly can. This will clear your pathway to success.

 

 

5. Seek a Thorough Theoretical Understanding

 

Any challenge you face will have a theoretical component, as well as an application component. Theory is the studying part, while application requires you to put what you’ve learned to the test in the real world. Most people tend to neglect theory, and focus their efforts solely on the application component of the challenge instead. These people think theory and studying are worthless, and that real results are only obtained through constant practice and application.

 

At face value their belief seems to make sense, but in reality it’s only partially accurate. When you examine it a bit closer you’ll come to realize these people are doing themselves a HUGE disservice by choosing to conquer their challenges with this mindset.

 

An advanced theoretical understanding will lay the foundation necessary to interpret the valuable lessons you’ll learn while tackling the application component of your challenge. Without the theoretical understanding in place, you won’t be able to extract the valuable lessons yielded by your real world application.

 

Also, a solid theoretical understanding will enrich the overall experience of conquering your challenge because you’ll understand exactly why you’re getting certain results. By understanding the mechanics at work behind the scenes, you’ll have a much deeper experience than someone else who chooses to neglect the theoretical component of the challenge.

 

During the Vipassana Meditation course I attended in July, there was an extensive theoretical component, as well as an application component of the practice. Every evening there was a discourse that provided all of the theoretical information we students would need to understand what we were learning.

 

While most students blew off this aspect of the course and only paid attention to the application component of the meditation, I made it a point to thoroughly understand all of the information the teacher was giving us. I used the time allocated for teacher interviews to ask my teacher as many questions as possible to clear up any confusion I had. As a result I was able to reach a deeper stage of meditation than any of the other new students at the course, and the experience was that much more powerful for me.

 

 

6. Apply Your Understanding

 

While theoretical understanding is crucial to your success in any endeavor, it’s only 50% of the equation. The other 50% of the equation is the application of your theoretical understanding.

 

Reading books and absorbing the wisdom of experts will only get you so far. At some point you’ll have to apply what you’ve learned, and what you’ll usually find is that while understanding is one thing, application is an entirely different animal.

 

You may have the best theoretical understanding of a subject in the world, but as soon as you try to apply what you’ve learned you’ll crash and burn just like everybody else. Don’t get discouraged! This is a natural part of the learning process, and has to happen. Invite and appreciate failure because it’s your greatest ally on your pathway to success. Success can only be reached after you’ve failed many, many times.

 

After crashing and burning a few times, you’ll soon find that your thorough theoretical understanding gives you a distinct advantage in the learning process. You’ll learn from your mistakes much faster, because you’ll understand why they’re happening, and will be able to solve the problems causing them at their roots.

 

When learning how to play poker, I mistakenly believed that by reading tons of books and watching a lot of strategy videos I would get better in no time without any practice. I figured I would be an expert as soon as I hit the virtual felt because of my conceptual understanding of the game.

 

Boy was I wrong.

 

Only once I had played in hundreds of tournaments, made thousands of mistakes, and reviewed countless hand histories did I notice a significant improvement in my poker game. I realized that if I was to succeed in conquering the challenge of earning a living playing poker, I was going to have to spend time studying AND practicing.

 

Balance your theoretical understanding by applying what you’ve learned, and you’ll find that the learning process is much more efficient than it once was when you lacked this balance.

 

 

7. Teach Others What You Have Learned

 

This is the icing on the cake, the final step in the process of conquering any challenge you choose to face.

 

Teaching others what you’ve learned is the best way to solidify your understanding of what you’ve learned. Find people who are interested in conquering the same challenge you’re interested in, but who don’t yet have the theoretical understanding necessary to do so. You’ll find that in order to teach these people what you’ve learned you’ll need a much higher level of understanding.

 

The reason for this is because your “students” will ask you many questions you hadn’t considered while learning the material. Their questions will come from all sorts of angles, and your understanding will really be tested. You probably won’t be able to answer all of their questions, and that’s okay! This process is awesome because it’ll expose concepts you previously overlooked, and will give you a chance to further deepen your understanding of these concepts.

 

When they ask you questions you already know the answer to, that’s great too! This will drill concepts that you already know further into your head, and your understanding of these concepts will become even better than it was before.

 

After you’ve spent enough time teaching others what you’ve learned, you’ll find that your level of understanding has skyrocketed to previously unknown levels. Also, the application portion of your challenge will be significantly easier because your excellent theoretical understanding will serve as application’s rock-solid foundation.

Who do you want to be?

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How much do you want from life? Right now, stop for a moment and think about one word you would use to describe your life today. Got it? If you knew you could open a door that would lead you to an even more fulfilling and extraordinary life, would you open it? What if there was some manageable pain involved?

Well, here’s the good news and the bad news: that door does exist, but almost always, the pain does to.

All growth involves some level of discomfort. But the discomfort is short-lived. The growth is forever.

If you view life as a circle, most of us live inside that circle where everything is comfortable and familiar. Occasionally, we might be forced outside by unexpected circumstances, and the brave among us might take a moment to look around at this new and scary landscape. But mostly, we scurry back to the safety of our circle.

Here’s a truth you already know: really bold leaps in our personal growth and quality of life happen only when step outside of that circle and keep walking.

The world has so much to offer — great adventures, interesting people, beauty, learning, emotional development, profound experiences. And we have such a short time on this planet — somewhere around 30,000 days if we live to our mid-eighties.

Why do we resist stretching ourselves beyond our circles when real living is on the other side?

Here are some of the reasons:

  • We fear the unknown. It might be worse than what we have now.
  • We fear failure and looking bad in the eyes of others.
  • We fear success. It will require more of us.
  • We have limiting beliefs about what we “should” do and can do.
  • We don’t believe we are deserving.
  • We don’t want to offend other people.
  • We can’t or won’t imagine how truly amazing life could be.
  • We think it will require resources we don’t have.
  • We don’t like discomfort.

On that 30,000th day, don’t look back on your life and say, “If only. . . .” Life is a string of “right nows.” Whatever it is that you hope might happen in the future won’t happen unless you are doing something about it right in this very moment.

Living outside of your circle doesn’t mean you have to go climb Mt. Everest or make a million dollars (unless that’s what you want to do). It does mean shifting up to the next level. Some stretches might move you forward a little, and some might propel you into an entirely new world. Both are good. All forward movement is good.

The key is to take action. Don’t sit around waiting for something to happen in your life. Make it happen.

Here are some practical ideas for doing just that:

1. Start with awareness. By reading this article, you are probably thinking about your life and how it could be better, more exceptional. Recognize right now that more is possible for you, and it can be achieved.

2. Access what you want. What do you want to achieve, learn, accomplish, enjoy and understand? Create a list with categories for career, family, travel, self-development, education or any others that apply to your life. Under each category, write down your heart’s desire — without limitations.

3. Pick your top five. Don’t overwhelm yourself with everything on your list. You will not be able to do everything. But you can do many things and still make your life profoundly better. For now, pick your top five, but hold on to your list.

4. Pick something easy. Create momentum and excitement by starting with an easy goal. Something that won’t involve to much of a stretch. Maybe it’s a trip you’ve wanted to take or a class you have been thinking about. Choose one item from your stretch list. When it’s completed, start with the next goal.

5. For now, don’t think. Just start taking small actions. Write down everything to accomplish your goal — from making calls, saving money, setting appointments, doing research. Don’t over-think it or question yourself. Make your action list and then just do it. One action at a time.

6. Challenge assumptions. Fear and self-doubt will creep in. You must challenge assumptions and negative thinking. If you keep thinking you can’t do something, or you aren’t smart enough, then you are creating a self-fulfilling cycle of inertia. Even if you don’tfeel confident, pretend that you do. Mentally resist when you start negative self-talk, and switch gears to thinking, “I can, I will.”

7. Befriend failure. Begin to view failure as a friend, not an enemy. We are not handed a road map to explore new territory. We set out on our adventure with a hazy view of the way forward. We may take wrong turns, but we have to take them to find the correct path. Love every failure, because it is part of growth. If you avoid failure, you are restricting your life.

8. Make it public. This is a real stretch, but a very successful one. When you begin a new goal or challenge, tell someone — anyone, everyone. Make it public. Now, you are accountable. It is human nature, when others are watching you, you will work harder. If you are serious about doing something, tell people. And tell them your deadline.

9. Find a mentor. Find someone whose life you want to emulate. Study that person. Learn how they accomplished and achieved. If they are living and you can connect with them, ask them questions and advice. Find someone who will inspire you to move forward.

10. Look stupid. Be willing to reveal what you don’t know. Everyone has areas of ignorance. Truly smart people are eager to learn and willing to expose their lack of knowledge. Once you get past that embarrassment, the learning is the easy part!

11. Ignore other people. Strive to detach from what other people think about you. People spend more time thinking about themselves anyway. The first and main person you have to please is yourself. Then your family and maybe a few close friends who are authentic. After that, you are chasing your tail. What other people think doesn’t matter.

12. Stop resisting. Remember the old pinball machines? You’d pull a lever and the ball would bounce off walls as it sought it’s way forward. Approach life that way. You are going to hit obstacles — whether it’s negative people or circumstances. Instead of resisting, move in a different direction. Bad things happen along the path, but don’t get stuck in them. Move away from them.

13. Think creatively. You don’t have to be an artist to be creative. As you approach a goal or action step, challenge yourself to find a bigger, better, or different way. The internet is an amazing resource for this. Look at what others are doing. Steal ideas and make them your own. Think big. Now think bigger.

14. Remove distractions. Whatever you are working on, work on that one thing. Don’t get distracted by emails, phone calls, other pending projects, or intruding extraneous thoughts. Focus on the task at hand, every single time.

15. Simplify everything. In order to achieve what will take you to the next level, you have to let go of what’s tethering you to the mundane. Begin some mental, emotional, and mental housekeeping. Where are you spending time that is draining your energy and resources? Are you spending time caring for material things that don’t contribute to a better quality of life? Do you have too many mindless tasks? Start eliminating these things, and free up tons of valuable time.

16. Try new things. Whenever you have the opportunity, try something new. A new hobby, new friends, a new type of book, a new idea. Expose yourself to different ways of doing things and thinking about things. Find new environments for learning. This will open new pathways to growth that you never knew existed.

17. Set a big challenge. Chris Guillebeau, the founder of the blog The Art of Non-Conformity, has set the astounding goal of visiting every country in the world (except those in turmoil) by the time he’s 35. He is 32 now. He chronicles his adventures for his blog followers. Create a big challenge for yourself, just for the fun of it. If you don’t make it, big deal. But if you do . . . .

18. Join a community. There’s lots of support out there for whatever you are doing. Get involved in a group of like-minded people who can cheer you on, inspire you, offer input and provide support.

19. Acknowledge yourself. Every step forward should be celebrated. We get so mired in the doing that we forget the being. Take time to ponder the growth you have made and the goals you have achieved. Share these achievements with family and friends. Write them down. You are becoming a different person.

20. Enjoy the process. As you take steps to stretch yourself and create a better life, don’t forget to savor the “right now.” The process of growth is forever, so you will always be in process. All you really have is this very moment — this is your life, so see the beauty in it.

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Why Do People….

I don’t understand when:

1. People who point at their wrist while asking for the time…. I know where my watch is pal, where the hell is yours? Do I point at my crotch when I ask where the toilet is? 

2. People who are willing to get off their ass to search the entire room for the tv remote because they refuse to walk to the tv and change the channel manually. 

3. When people say “Oh you just want to have your cake and eat it too”. Damn right! What good is cake if you can’t eat it? 

4. When people say “it’s always the last place you look”. Of course it is. Why the hell would you keep looking after you’ve found it? Do people do this? Who and where are they? Gonna Kick their asses! 

5. When people say while watching a film “did you see that?”. No Loser, I paid $12 to come to the cinema and stare at the damn floor. 

6. People who ask “Can I ask you a question?”…. Didn’t really give me a choice there, did ya sunshine? 

7. When something is ‘new and improved!’. Which is it? If it’s new, then there has never been anything before it. If it’s an improvement, then there must have been something before it, couldn’t be new. 

8. When people say “life is short”. What the hell?? Life is the longest damn thing anyone ever does!! What can you do that’s longer? 

9. When you are waiting for the bus and someone asks “Has the bus come yet?”. If the bus came would I be standing here, dumbass? 

Beer is always the right decision

Beer is always the right decision

Be able to walk away

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In any kind of negotiation, your ability to walk away is your strongest tool.

Those who can walk away from the negotiation — legitimately walk away, not just make a show of it — are in the strongest position. Those who are convinced they need to make the deal are in the weakest position.

This is true of negotiating when you’re buying a car, closing the sale of your new home, haggling in a foreign flea market, or trying to get a raise.

It’s also true of anything in life.

Know that there’s almost nothing you can’t walk away from.

If you are convinced you need a nice house with a walk-in closet and hardwood floors and a huge kitchen, you now have a weakness. You will give away precious life hours and savings to get it. Someone else who knows that those things aren’t absolutely necessary can walk away, and not need to spend so much money (and thus work hours) on that kind of house.

If you are convinced that you need Stabucks grande lattes every day, or an iPhone or iPad, or an SUV or Cooper Mini or BMW … you are in the weak position, because you can’t give it up. Someone else might know that those aren’t essential to happiness, and can walk away.

If you know that the man who is treating you badly (but who you just know will change someday, because, you know, he loves you) isn’t necessary for you to be happy, you can walk away. If you know that you can be happy alone, and that you need no one to make you happy, you can walk away.

If you know that there’s almost nothing you can’t walk away from, you can save yourself tons of money. Years of time. Mountains of headaches and heartaches. Boatloads of suffering.

You don’t need to walk away from everything, but you should know that you can. And when the cost of the deal is too great, too dear … walk away.

“Change begins with choice”

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When work is no more than a means to an end, it cannot be of high quality. When obstacles or difficulties arise in their work, when things don’t go according to expectations, when other people or circumstances are not helpful or cooperative, instead of immediately becoming one with the new situation and responding to the requirements of the present moment, they react against the situation and so separate themselves from it. There is a “me” that feels personally offended or resentful, and a large amount of energy is burned up in useless protest or anger, energy that could be used for solving the situation if it were not being misused by the ego. What is more, this “anti” energy creates new obsticles, new opposition. Many people are truly their own worst emnemy.

“In order to attract success, you need to welcome it wherever you see it.”

Any day we wish we, we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish, we can open the book thast will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish, we can start a new actiuvity. Any day we wish, we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month or next year. We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can chose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed “The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves.” We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and resposibility to make better choices beginning today. Those who are in the search of the good life do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They need the whole truth and they need nothing but the truth. We cannot allow our errors in judgement, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness, and joy into our daily lives. And if I may be so bold as to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life – If you don’t like how things are – CHANGE IT! You’re not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every are in your life – and it all begins with your very own power of choice!

Words of Wisdom. I’ve Learned that…

  • I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
  • I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
  • I’ve learned that it takes years to buil up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
  • I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
  • I’ve learned that you can only get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that you’d better know something.
  • I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
  • I’ve learned its not what happens to people that’s important, but what they do about it.
  • I’ve learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
  • I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
  • I’ve learned that it’s a lot easier to react than to think.
  • I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
  • I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you think you can’t.
  • I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
  • I’ve learned that you either control your attitude or it controls you.
  • I’ve learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something to take its place.
  • I’ve learned that heroes are the people that do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
  • I’ve learned that learning to forgive takes practice.
  • I’ve learned that there are people that love you dearly, but just don’t know how to show it.
  • I’ve learned that money is a lousy way to keep score.
  • I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything and nothing and have the best time.
  • I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you back up.
  • I’ve learned that sometimes when i’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
  • I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the greatest distance. Same with true love.
  • I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
  • I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is they’re gonna hurt you once in a while and you must forgive them.
  • I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
  • I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
  • I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
  • I’ve learned that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
  • I’ve learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.
  • I’ve learned that many things can be powered by the mind. The trick is self-control.
  • I’ve learned that your life can be instantly changed by people who don’t even know you.
  • I’ve learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pain.
  • I’ve learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
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